Relationship counselling - just for couples?
When I say I specialise in relationships - most people jump to the assumption "Relationship counselling just for couples?'
To me the most important relationship in your life is the relationship you have with yourself. It sets the tone for all other relationships in your life. Working on improving this relationship - making it stronger, healthier & more resilient and you will most likely see improvements in other areas of your life. Relationship counselling with self can help you achieve a balanced quality of life. Life becomes more fun.
The Many Different Types of Relationships we can have in our lives
I offer couples and individual relationship counselling online and in Wetherby, Leeds, West Yorkshire for :-
- Same gender marriages/ partnerships
- Heterosexual relationships
- Married couples
- Family issues
- Sibling rivalry
- Work colleagues conflict
- Improving relationship with self
- Relationships with food, intimacy, sex or porn
- Working on relationship with finance.
- Spiritual Relationships
Relationship Counselling Online and in Wetherby, Leeds West Yorkshire.
I do work with couples but this isn't the only relationships I work with. Relationships are everywhere in our lives. There is no escaping them. I specialise in helping clients improve the relationship they have with "self" - in my view the most important.
I do support clients who are struggling in relationships. Wether married, living together, apart or or separated, work colleagues and friends with discord etc. The aim is to learn strategies to communicate more effectively, by providing a safe space for clients to share their thoughts and feelings without judgment. Through this, couples and individuals are more able to learn from one another and understand where their relationship breakdown has occurred.
I also work with individuals and relationships that may be causing them discomfort or worry in their lives. I have experience with working with relationship issues it can help with a range of issues such as:
- anti social personality
- internet addiction
- narcissistic personality
- bi polar disorder
- anxiety stress
- substance abuse
- anger management
- post traumatic stress
- family meditation
Our Relationship With "self"
As a specialist relationship counsellor lot of clients begin "relationship counselling" by telling me what's wrong with everyone and everything in their life. That's O.K for me. And it's a good place to start. Telling me everything you are not happy with in your life.
Once clients have got this out there and been able to just release their pent up anger, emotion, guilt, shame, resentment ... or whatever emotions that they have been carrying around with them. There's finally space to breathe.
And in my opinion that's then when the work really starts. That's when we can really take a good look at what's really going on underneath it all. If you really want to take charge of your life, then working on the relationship you have with self is fundamental to your self development and growth.
If I can give you an example most of us have complained or got over anxious at something a partner for example has done or not done. Perhaps going a bit overboard .... until you build this picture of them in your mind. In fact now you frown every time you think of them or you have a gut wrenching feeling that doesn't wash away.
Is it really because your partners dinner is getting cold and they are not home from work yet? Or is it more your mind starts to wonder and you are building up this picture in your mind of what "they could be doing".
Improving and working on your relationship with "self" - looking at self esteem, confidence issues, the way you communicate and your relating patterns helps all aspects of your life. It has a ripple effect.
Counselling can help with your relationship with self thus improving things such as self worth, life direction, resilience, courage and confidence.