My approach in sessions
I do not expect you to be trusting of me from the start. I accept that you will be cautious, I understand your need to protect yourself. I do not expect you to share everything with me. It's important you set the pace. I will not rush you. I will be patient. You might change the story as the sessions progress, dramatically. That's perfectly O.K too.
My belief will be as you have started your journey there is something you are not happy within your life, or something you feel not quite right. You might know or you might not.
You may be looking for answers or you might just want someone to hear you out. You might want to change or you might find change too frightening or impossible and just want support. These options are all perfectly fine with me.
My aim is also to resource you with new strategies to integrate into your life and a refreshed awareness leading to reflective action.
Exploring with you your existing emotional strengths as well as creating new behaviours and relating patterns. Perhaps working on your inner child or ways to increase your self-efficacy. My counselling approach will be that we will come to a mutual decision about the direction of the therapeutic work.
I will not take away your autonomy
I will want to help you, but we will not achieve this by me trying to rescue or fix you. Together we will create a therapeutic relationship where you can be understood. A trusting therapeutic relationship will be the catalyst for your growth and empowerment. You are the master of your own life. I can share my knowledge gained through my life experiences and my training, but we are equal in this therapeutic relationship. I am sure just as you will leave changed through our encounter I also will.
I will not be afraid to say goodbye
When your work is done. I will be sad to see you go. But this will not stop me letting you go. I see it as my ethical duty to be aware of when it is time to end therapy. Due to ethical guidelines by the BACP I will not be able to become your friend, but it doesn't mean from time to time I won't think of you fondly in my thoughts.