Paying For Counselling is a transaction.
What will I gain from counselling ? What are the benefits of counselling? Of sitting talking to a stranger? You arrive at counselling face to face or online with an issue, you pay for the service and you will have expectations of what you want to get from it. What you want to gain.
Theres much research that tells you its good for you. You will want to know what you will gain from counselling. What you bring, setting realistic expectations, commitment and finding the right therapist at the right time in the right circumstance are all variable's that are critical to your counselling success.
I often describe therapy in terms of the client being a passenger on a "journey" one which can be full of stops, starts, false starts, potholes, cross junctions, wrong turnings, bridges, burst river banks, mountains to climb, countryside to ramble, jungles to untangle, confusing instructions to navigate, treasure to uncover, scars maybe to hide, roaming wild animals ... I guess you get the gist?
Its never a linear progression - and often clients may need several stops starts with different therapists before "they really get going" and get what they need from therapy. Or it can be a case of putting the pieces together of different parts of their journey. Building upon learning, layer upon layer - with different therapists at different times in their lives.
Lets get real - What will you gain from counselling?
The question "what will I gain from counselling" is a perfectly regualar question to ask yourself. A lot of therapists like to say we offer a good space (me included) .... "space". But what will you get from this "space"? What when you have paid out that money and finished therapy - what will you actually be left with? (apart from an empty wallet). This depends on your expectations in the first instance. Here are some clear examples of what clients can expect to work towards in therapy (its unique to us all) ...... you may have your own idea.
- better ability to make decisions that are good for you.
- establish healthy boundaries.
- manage emotions better.
- understand themselves better.
- acceptance of self, others, situations
- improve communication skills
- break free from sabotaging patterns
- brave uncertainty
- clarity on confusing situations
- better relationship with "self".
- feel control of your life
- better resourced
- build healthy relationships
- resolve inner conflict
- increased awareness
- build resilience & self compassion
- develop coping skills & strategies
- feel validated
- understanding of past/ present triggers.
- identify patterns of relating
- change unhelpful/ risky behaviours
- confidence in their abilities.
- recognise feelings
How Talking Therapy Works. So How does it actually Work? How will you achieve your expectations?
Firstly I need to say - I don't have a magic wand, I won't tell you what to do, nor will I try to fix you or rescue you. I will offer you a "space" ... that word again which is kind, caring, empathetic, nurturing, non-judgmental, understanding and at times challenging. Its more about working with you to untangle the puzzle. You being the master of your life. Me using my powerful life experiences and specialist training. Both of us coming together to work things out. To learn more about how that actually works read here.