Sex Kinks and Outsiders Fetishes  - Being Different

People who have sex kinks and outsiders fetishes often face alienation and rejection from family, friends or society. For some sex kinks and outsiders fetishes even therapists can reject them - being labelled as "sex pests".

Our sexuality and gender can form a big part of our identity and those who don’t fit society’s heteronormative ideal can come up across many  challenges. Those who identify as LGBTQ+ may be gay, lesbian, bisexual, transexual, pansexual, asexual, queer, non-binary or questioning (or, may define their gender and sexuality in different ways). They can be seen as ‘different’, facing discrimination, bullying and a lack of understanding.

LGBTQ+ people can be at a greater risk of developing a mental health condition than those in the wider population. The reasons for this are complex however, most mental health problems experienced can be linked to discrimination, bullying, homophobia, biphobia or transphobia.

If you identify as LGBTQ+ and you’re struggling with your mental health, know that you’re not alone. You may be particularly prone to:

You may experience rejection from those around you, including friends, family and work colleagues. It may be dangerous for you physically and mentally to. Understandably, this can have a big impact on your sense of self-worth and your confidence. You may feel the need to hide this part of yourself from others, and this can be damaging in itself.

Some LGBTQ+ people may find they turn to substance use to help them cope with difficult emotions. If you’re worried about the way you’re using alcohol or drugs, your doctor, a counsellor or a helpline can offer support. Other factors may also complicate things, for example where you live, your ethnicity and religious background.

While, of course, not everyone in the LGBTQ+ community will experience poor mental health, it’s important to know that if you do experience challenges, support is available.

Sex Kinks and Outsiders

Having a fetish, a sex addiction or using porn, sex, prostitutes, escorts, domination or submissive may leave you feeling alone, ashamed and as if no one understands you. Many people with sex kinks or outsiders fetishes may find it difficult to hold down a stable relationship or you may even feel disgusted with yourself as your partner does not understand you. Perhaps you don't even understand yourself.

Perhaps your sex kinks go hand in hand with substance use. This is a lonely place to be in and if you are comforting yourself with risky behaviour your health could be at risk.  Being rejected for your sex kinks and outsiders fetishes can have a detrimental impact on your self worth which can leave you with low self-confidence leading you to leading a double, hidden life. This can cause long term damage to  your self-esteem.

It is important for you to know I try my best to offer counselling in a non-judgmental, compassionate and caring environment which will help you come to terms with your issues.

Sex Industry Workers

If you work in the sex industry this may leave some clients feeling ashamed, guilty and at risk to your physical and emotional health. You may want to talk honestly to a qualified counsellor who will show unconditional positive regard and treat you as a equal. Without fear of being judged. I appreciate the struggles sex work may bring clients. You may have difficult hurdles to overcome with close family and friends.

Perhaps you are wanting a career change? Or coming to terms with childhood issues? Whatever the reason you are seeking counselling I can assure you I am professionally and personally experienced not to judge. But at the same time I would not expect clients to trust me immediately. I understand therapy is a process where it will take time for you to trust me and we can work towards this.

My assumption will be that by seeking a counsellor you will want to change something in your life. It will be my focus that our  joint therapeutic relationship will be the catalyst so you are able to leave therapy an empowered individual.


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I Can Help With but not limited to

  • Sex Kinks & outsiders fetishes
  • Fetish acceptance
  • Relationship issues due to sex
  • Sexual Deviance
  • Porn Addiction
  • Paying for Sex
  • Sex Worker's
  • Escorting
  • Being Paid for Sex
  • Double Lives
  • Submissive Fantasies
  • Adults Working In The Strip Club Industry
  • Confusion Over Sexuality
  • Accepting your Sexuality
  • Transvestite issues

I Can Help With but not limited to

  • Transgender Issues
  • Transitioning
  • Sexual Betrayal
  • Relationship Breakdown
  • Working With Shame
  • Working With Guilt
  • Polygamy
  • Sexual Outsiders
  • Sex Addiction
  • Gender Dysphoria
  • Religion and Sexuality
  • Culture and Sexuality
  • Pre-Op Issues
  • Post Op Issues
  • Non-Binary Issues
  • Dealing With A Partner's Sexuality

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